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Wednesday, August 8, 2012

Wives Encouraged to Leave, Choose to Stay!

There are a growing number of wives whom God has instructed to remain in their marriages. And God's request comes in the midst of what all might agree as untenable challenges.
To many such a decision seems foolish. Requesting a wife to remain in marriage with a husband that demonstrates little to no regard for God, engages in pornography, the occult or has committed adultery seems like an unfair and unloving request-especially coming from God. Quickly, many reason that "God wants us to be happy." In the interest of happiness, well-meaning Christians encourage some of these wives to divorce. Admittedly, there are no easy answers. Nor is there one answer that fits all. But, let me also say that God sends such requests to those that have ears to hear it and understandably, not all have the maturity to receive such instruction.
Hosea did. Gomer was Hosea's wife. Her name means filled with sexual iniquity. She was a prostitute before marrying Hosea. Gomer committed adultery, but God instructed Hosea not to divorce his wife. Through Hosea's obedience, God redeemed her. Read their full story in the Book of Hosea.
God made a similar request of Jesus. Consider Philippians 2:6-8.

"Though he was God,he did not think of equality with God as something to cling to. Instead, he gave up his divine privilege she took the humble position of a slave and was born as a human being. When he appeared in human form,he humbled himself in obedience to God and died a criminal's death on a cross."
Jesus asked God, at least three times, whether or not there was some other way to redeem us. When God offered no other alternative, Jesus said,
"... nevertheless, not as I will, but as You (God) will." (Matthew 26:39)
The wives whom God has made the request to stay in their marriages are not your average women. They are strong, although for years their strength has been misappropriated. These women are not emotionally incapacitated or co-dependent as some may assume. They are mentally, emotionally and financially sufficient. They are fierce competitors. This simply may prove to be the fight of their lives! Like Jesus, they too have a will and acknowledge it. However, they have chosen God's will over their own.
The women I am writing about are not naïve. They know let down and betrayal. They know financial loss and put-downs. They know humiliation and embarrassment, loneliness and desires unfulfilled. Still, they are answering God's request to keep their marriage vow.
It's safe to say that these women know pain. It's just that they are no longer afraid of it. They also know fear, but they are no longer governed by it! Instead, they are discovering the kind of love that drives out fear. I John 4:18 reads,
"There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear, because fear involves torment. But he who fears has not been made perfect in love."
These women are discovering the kind of love that was in Christ. It is an unconditional love that works like this,
"But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us." (Romans 5:8)
"... that is, that God was in Christ reconciling the world to Himself, not imputing their trespasses to them, and has committed to us the word of reconciliation." (II Corinthians 5:19)
It is the kind of love that was in Christ when God reconciled the world to Himself. It's the same love that is now working in these wives to reconcile their husbands to God! God has accomplished His work through faithful men and women for centuries. Today is no different.
God has and continues to pour this kind of love into the wives of whom He has made the request to remain in marriage. He is divinely aiding these women to love their husbands despite the cost to themselves. And make no mistake, it is a cost, but one that God will richly reward. You see, at the end of the day these wives recognize this is a spiritual competition and they have been graced to compete with patience, looking to Jesus who is the author and finisher of their faith.
My hope is that each wife that receives such a request from God will find love, encouragement and support among the solidarity of wives that are also answering God's call. Kim Moore & Friends is committed to helping such women through prayer and discipleship.
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